Writer, model, mental health advocate. Instagram @eva_smite
Beauty- inner, outer and everything in between.
It is a bizarre notion , but what is considered beautiful at any given time in the society, is constantly changing, not unlike the fashion trends. Bizarre, because unlike clothes - people have a soul. Yet, they too are made to feel disposable. If they allow it of course.
Dedication to a Friend(s).
A certain version of this article has been sitting in my drafts for some time now. There were all these excuses; I couldn’t find the time to finish it, the inspiration would fluctuate, I couldn’t make up my mind on the title, jumping between “An ode to Friends” or “Dedication to Friends”; a trivial detail really. The only thing I was fully decided on, was a subtitle. “I’ll be there for you”; an echo of the song during the opening titles of the series , that made its way into the hearts of millions in the 90’s, 00’s and beyond. In the retrospect, it is very likely I was simply worried that I won’t be able to describe the full pallet when it comes to how I felt about this iconic show, as well as what it meant to a whole generation. The task felt like very large shoes to fill.
- Top Story - September 2023
- Top Story - July 2023
Letter of gratitude to Vocal community.Top Story - July 2023
I don’t know how many people will read this article, since the probability of it making it to the top story is low, unlike my previous piece, which is the very reason I am writing these words. But even if a small percentage out of those who engaged with my content over the last two weeks will see this letter, it will be worth it. Perhaps one of the main reasons I had to write it, is me feeling that due to the busyness of daily life, I didn’t reciprocate nearly enough on the lovely feedback I received from you lot recently.
- Top Story - June 2023
4 things one year of working in a bookshop has taught me 📚 Top Story - June 2023
Last month marked exactly one year since I began working part time in a lovely bookshop in Marylebone, London. A place that from the start felt like home. A place of learning from interesting people and books about all kinds of things - about the world and its mysteries, about the human condition, as well as about myself. One thing is more clear than ever - certain environments bring out the best in us. The bookshop environment is one such place for me. Even in childhood, one of my favourite places to be in, was a particular library in my hometown. And while in the last decade I didn’t visit many libraries , every time I stepped a foot into various bookshops, I would notice my nervous system instantly becoming more regulated, resulting in my body and mind feeling relaxed and simultaneously more energised. A sea of books occupying many shelves is still my safe place and a source of inspiration. Which is why getting this job felt like something out of a movie, a dream come true.
Writers block, imposters syndrome or simply a lack of inspiration ?
I oftentimes wonder, why do I take such big breaks in between producing my works of written word? After all, once I actually sit down and write - story tends to take shape and be born, sometimes within hours. I enjoy writing, it nourishes my soul, expands my mind, and there is a substantial evidence that people enjoy reading my articles, which inspires me enormously by the way. And yet, something blocks me on a regular basis. It is like I do not fully believe that what I have to offer has a significant value.
- Top Story - November 2022
A different kind of love letter part 2 Top Story - November 2022
Back in 2018, which now feels like ages ago , and certainly belonging in the BC (before Covid) era, I wrote a love letter… to the greatest city on Earth, called London. If you like, you can read it by clicking on the link below:
Why I am raising money for “Young Minds” charity.
It is not a secret for anyone at this point that I feel very strongly about the subject of mental health, as well as destroying the stigma that surrounds it. I mean, it even says in my bio, both here and on Instagram that I am a mental health advocate. And since I started a fundraiser for YoungMinds charity on my birthday last month, I thought this is a good time to elaborate on the subject a bit more. To make it more personal, more transparent. To tell a story about a real life experience.
The cost of true freedom.
"None are more hopelessly enslaved than those who falsely believe they are free.” Johann Wolfgang Von Go. Freedom is one of my core values, and I have given it a lot of thought. Additionally it is a major theme for the collective, especially since the beginning of 2020 . On the surface level it seems that the recent events highlighted and temporarily limited our liberties, such as the ability to travel the world, eat out, or to even simply hang out with ones friends, have a sovereignty over ones body when it comes to medical choices, and so on. But the concept of “freedom” goes much deeper in my opinion. If anything, the unique limitations that were imposed globally, created an opportunity for many to reevaluate their lives, and examine all the ways that they were not free in during the years or decades leading up to now, despite the ability to roam the world freely, having financial means etc .
ReMind Body therapy
The energetic climate of the last few years has been intense to say the least, and for a lot of people, mental health took a hit. You can say the whole world is going through a healing crisis of sorts. However, what we call “mental health” isn’t limited to just our mental aspect , the whole term is somehow misleading. Emotional health would perhaps be a better name for it , but again it is limited. We have to look at a human as a whole - an ecosystem that is complicated, yet very intelligent. There is a tendency in the West to view the mind and the body as two separate entities, largely thanks to the Cartesian philosophy of the duality between the two. There is also a tendency to predominantly live in our minds - to think (and overthink), rather than feel and notice somatic (body) sensations.
Why we should celebrate our differences.
As long as I can remember myself, I have always felt very different from other people, and to a younger me this was a tragedy. Children desperately want to belong , to be accepted by the group, they need this experience in order to feel safe, as on a basic animal level not belonging literally means death. For our ancestors it was impossible to survive in the wilderness if they were rejected by a group, hence why for a developing psyche the experiences of not being accepted can be very overwhelming on a biological level. Additionally , as a result of feeling rejected in our formative years , we tend to develop all kinds of limiting beliefs, as children are a lot more likely to assume that the problem lies with them, rather than with the situation. I remember so vividly how I had wished I were someone else , someone “normal” and part of the group.