EuGene Jordan
Bio
@IamEuGeneJordan Muso, educator + founder of MenAndMarriage.co.uk an initiative focused on inspiring men to share their journey through manhood, marriage and parenting. My wife and I parent our daughter @iamGenevaLondon who's a pro drummer.
Stories (11/0)
Manhood Before 30
Have you ever seen those annoying drivers who can't make up their mind on which lane they’re in? Those drivers who drive slow and take forever just to simply change up a gear when they come into the fast lane? They do 40 when they know full well it's a 50mph zone! "What on Earth are they playing at?” They are so incompetent on the road that their passenger always has to give them clear instructions on which way to turn. They're such "special" drivers that they need to have a special cone on the top of their car with the big red "L". You know who I'm talking about... Learners!
By EuGene Jordan4 years ago in Humans
- Top Story - January 2020
The Triathlete FatherTop Story - January 2020
A triathlon, like fatherhood, is a multiple-stage event. It involves the completion of three continuous and sequential endurance disciplines of which swimming is just one of them. It's one of my favourite examples that draw parallels to becoming a father, because, like triathletes, us fathers will have to go through multiple-stage events throughout our children’s life (New babies, toddlers, adolescent teens and then adulthood). What are the 3 stages I hear you pondering! Well! The stages (or the Legs) of a Triathlon start with the "hardest" event first; Swimming then it goes on to the cycling event and then finally the running stage.
By EuGene Jordan4 years ago in Families
Communicating with your child
A successful business man I once knew shared with me an experience he had as a student. He explained that whilst he was studying he needed to be able to have money in his pocket, however, it's was hard to come across a student who isn't hard up for cash (not much seems to have changed these days). Anyway. He went on to tell me about his cheque guarantee card and how it worked. This cheque guarantee card would allow him to go into any shop, write a cheque out to 'Cash' and he would be given cash in return for his cheque. As his cheque guarantee card was guaranteed and honoured up to the value of £50, he would continue to do this multiple time. Safe to say he ended up withdrawing way more than he had actually paid into his account.
By EuGene Jordan4 years ago in Families
Happy Wife Happy Life
My father always advised that living with a woman is not always going to be the easiest thing to do in life, however, if I ever wanted to be happy and achieve true equilibrium within my marriage and within my home, then I would first have to master the art of doing the things that make my wife happy and focus on creating a happy environment for her. My father always said: "If Mamma's happy, everybody's happy. If Mamma's not happy, ain't nobody happy." One of Dad’s goals was to create a great environment for Mum and doing so meant that happiness filtered down to the rest of the house. He based a lot of his relationship advice to me on this saying. Where did he get this from...? His father maybe? Nope... a fridge magnet.
By EuGene Jordan4 years ago in Humans
How to not cheat
I was driving in my area and I happened to be on a road that was lined end to end with beautifully designed houses. As I continued to drive down the road, I noticed that my admiration for these houses had momentarily taken my attention and I was no longer focusing on the road ahead as I made my way home. I started to fantasise about what life would be like if I had a house like those I had seen. How easily was I distracted from the home I already own! So, as I eventually pried my eyes away from these houses, I fixed my eyes back on the road ahead it dawned on me that this experience drew some significant parallels when compared to many of our relationships.
By EuGene Jordan4 years ago in Humans
4 Real Relationship Goals
“Relationship goals” has been the catchphrase on the tip of everyone’s tongue, but, who’s setting these unrealistic standards of perfection? Not even those on the perfectly framed Instagram platform can achieve these unattainable images with any level of consistency? I wanted to share just four simple, practical and very realistic relationship goals everyone can reach to hopefully alleviate some of the potentially damaging pressures we often put on our relationships and marriages under in the name of #RelationshipGoals.
By EuGene Jordan4 years ago in Humans
First Time Dad
I met up with my brother last week to meet with the latest addition to his/my family and as I held his newborn son in my arms, I suddenly realized that quite a number of my friends and 2 more of my brothers have recently become fathers this year too. For most, it has been a new and completely life changing experience but connecting with some of these guys made me think about my experience becoming a first-time dad and how it change my perspective and approach to parenting.
By EuGene Jordan4 years ago in Families
Anger MANagement
By the time we've grown from children into fully fledged men, it would've been ingrained into our minds not to be "too emotional". We go through life putting our poker face but once that feeling of rage comes across us, we have a licence to go from 0-No Chill in less than a second. We've gotten pretty good at unleashing this emotion. Anger.
By EuGene Jordan4 years ago in Psyche
I Still Do: 9 Years On
Couples in their 20s are the most likely group to divorce so, as we got married in our early twenties the stats were firmly against us but, here... we... are! Today's the day! Nine years on and my wife and I celebrate nine roller coaster years of marriage. A lot has happened since we first met as teenagers all those years ago. We've experienced a lot over the years but the one thing that I've learned is that falling in love was easy, however, staying in love is where we've had to really put the work in. Here are 5 honest lessons I've learned (and still learning) over the last nine years of marriage.
By EuGene Jordan4 years ago in Humans
How To Successfully Argue With Your Partner
Couples have heated moments. That's completely natural, however we can often find ourselves making long term decision based on our short term feelings. Some are of the mindset that in order to have a perfect relationship it should be completely argument free. I can assure you that those people are wrong on two accounts:
By EuGene Jordan4 years ago in Humans
Refocusing your Marriage
Have you have you ever been sat for hours on end in front of your computer trying to focus on something for an important deadline? You've been at it for so long, however, things are becoming so blurry that you just can't see the tree for the woods? You've lost focus! You take a moment to step away from the computer, grabbed yourself a beverage and now you've returned back to the computer all of a sudden you see clearly. The glaringly obvious is steering you in the face. This is often how we become within our relationships. We can be face to face with our partner for so long that her beauty (mind body and soul) become a blur. That feeling of disconnect begins to kick in and you start taking what you have in front of you for granted or even worse, you slowly start to fall out of love without even realising it.
By EuGene Jordan4 years ago in Humans
