When I was 17 I got my first real boyfriend it was so exciting. Everything was good in our relationship, we would talk everyday, he would consider my feelings and he treated me like a queen. We dated about a year, until things turned sour it was rumored he had cheated on me, and me being the young immature person I was, got home and broke up with him without giving him a chance to explain to himself. After two months of ignoring him I finally replied him on a day that I felt lonely (we all have those days don’t let anybody fool you). He begged for another chance and he called me and during the call he started crying saying he missed me and wanted, I was shook I had never heard or seen a boy crying for a girl. Me being me, I went to the trusty WhatsApp group to tell my girl friends about what I had just gone through. The replies that I got that day showed me that girls really play a pivotal role in men showing toxic masculinity.
I have been in a relationship with my boyfriend for three years, one of which we have been long distance. Many people ask me, how do we do it? I know it won't work for everyone, but from the time we began dating, we had a set time called, "Bae Time." Bae Time is basically a time when both of us just talk about life and reassure each other that this is forever. In this "Bae Time," which was at least an hour, we learnt to love each other correctly, to communicate, and occasionally, we also talk about how we can pleasure each other.