I have been a writer for 14 years now, I'll figure it out one day.
Do you remember when your parents used to leave you on your own for a while and you’d have the whole house to yourself? That’s what it feels like all the time when you first move out. Until you have to pay your first month’s bills. But when your parents were away, weren’t the nights alone terrifying? Especially the first few times. You were totally convinced that someone knew you were alone. They’d been watching you all day. And they were going to break in and murder you whilst you slept on the couch. But thankfully they didn’t. For 2 reasons. One is because the chances of anyone breaking into your house and murdering you are fairly slim. The other is because your parents or legal guardians made sure the house was safe. And home safety is something you kind of take for granted until you’re either on your own or old enough to understand. But making your house safe against POTENTIAL intruders is something that you need to do. Burglaries are incredibly common and you need to protect yourself against them as much as you can.
When you first move out into your own place, you realise how much stuff you don’t have. And just how much stuff you actually do need. You also realise how much all that shit costs. Admittedly, there are a lot of things that alleged “grown-ups” have that they don’t need. But there are a few things that come in really handy, even if it’s only once in a while. I don’t think you’re an idiot, by the way. I know you’ll have the basic things like cleaning supplies and vacuums. I’m talking about the things that can sometimes slip your mind.
If you’ve paid good money for something and it’s not right, tell someone. You can tell someone without being a dick about it. Let’s say, for example, you’re in a restaurant and your order is wrong. There are 3 paths you can take. Path 1, do nothing. Path 2, shout and scream and tell someone they’re gonna get fired and be a total wanker. Or path 3, discreetly tell someone your order was wrong and would they mind changing it for you please?
If you’re lucky enough to have a full-time job, then be thankful for it. I know it might not seem like much to celebrate. But there are people out there right now who would sell an organ to be in your position. I get that it might suck and be boring or you might hate your colleague. But believe me, you’ll hate joblessness even more.
Remember when you were a kid and your mum or dad dragged you grocery shopping? You were bored the whole time and wanted to go home. It’s the same when you’re an adult, but now you’re responsible for the bill at the end. The whole “we have food at home” thing is making much more sense now, isn’t it? Grocery shopping is a chore, but if you want to eat, it needs to be done. I can’t stop it from being tedious. But I can stop it from being so expensive.
Some people like cleaning, others don’t. Personally, I hate cleaning, but I hate dirt even more. So with a hairy cat and a hairy dog, cleaning is a constant thing. If you wanna be dirty. be dirty. But if you’re trying to be clean but don’t know how, keep reading.
People love to berate others who don’t know how to do something. Even though there was a time they didn’t know how to do the thing in question. But life skills are supposed to be taught to you by other people. And not everyone is lucky enough to have someone to teach them these skills. So the next time you think it’s stupid that someone can’t tell the time on an analog clock. Remember that it’s not an instinct. Someone had to teach you how to do it. And maybe nobody ever taught them.
Living with Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD) must be hellish no matter what your trigger is. But living with contamination triggered OCD during a global pandemic must be some kind of living nightmare. There is no escaping it at the moment. Everywhere you turn there is talk of germs. Washing hands, sanitising surfaces and wiping down groceries are all things you did anyway. But now you’ve gone into full-on hyper-drive. And the threat that you perceived anyway has just suddenly become even more real. So how can you stop yourself spiralling out of control and letting the OCD take over your life even more?