Claire Raymond

Claire Raymond

I have been a writer for 14 years now, I'll figure it out one day.

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  • Claire Raymond
    Published 3 years ago
    Online Dating Safety Tips

    Online Dating Safety Tips

    With 1 in 5 relationships now beginning online, it makes good sense to sign up to a dating site. But with 71% of online users lying about their age, height and figure, you not only need to be honest, but more importantly, you need to be safe. I don't believe you should think that everyone on dating websites is a con artist or a murderer, but you do need to make sure you take proper safety precautions on every single date you go on, no matter how comfortable you might feel with that person. The main concerns of online dating are financial fraud and physical safety, so you need to be vigilant from the start. Don't send money to anyone you haven't met, you might think that sounds silly as why would anyone do that? But more people do it than you realize, last year in the UK, people on dating websites were conned out of around £39 million. Never reveal any personal information about yourself such as your address or your bank details. And don't post any intimate pictures to them, they may be in fun, but they could potentially be used to blackmail you. Sob stories that end in requests for money are all too common, just ignore them, none of it is true. Don't feel pressured into meeting anyone before you are ready, if someone is pressuring you a lot then you should ask yourself why. If they are making you uncomfortable, report them to the website. Never meet anyone at your home or theirs for a first date, meet in a well lit public place and if you think something feels off before you get there, leave immediately. The same applies if you are worried about your date's behavior, if they are scaring you then make your excuses and get out. Keep an eye on your drink at all times, never leave it unattended, if you need to go to the bathroom then finish it first and order a new one when you get back. If your date has already ordered you one, don't drink it, think up an excuse such as "I'm driving" or "I have to be up early tomorrow so I better not drink too much" Never go to someone's house if you don't want to, nobody should want you to if you are not comfortable, if they are trying to make you then leave as quickly as you can. You should always make your own way home after a first date too, don't let them drive you. Always let someone know where you are going, when you get there and what the name of the person is, show them a picture if possible. Let them know if the date is going well or badly (excuse yourself and go to the bathroom) and tell them as soon as you get home. If someone is coming to your home, keep all personal information such as bank statements out of sight. Conning isn't an instant thing, they could be working you to get to your info, so keep it in a safe place only you know about. It all sounds a bit intimidating and like everyone is out to hustle or assault you, and not everyone is, but some people are. And those people ruin it for the rest of the online daters out there wanting to make a connection with one. Don't go into online dating suspecting everyone, just be aware that things like this happen and you need to protect yourself from them, sometimes it is better to be a little suspicious at the start, than to be the victim of a crime.
  • Claire Raymond
    Published 3 years ago
    Depression: What It Isn't

    Depression: What It Isn't

    Depression is incredibly hard to describe, one of the reasons I think it is so difficult is because everyone's experience of depression is totally different. Being depressed means different things to different people so it can be hard to put that into words. But depression is NOT: Something people choose. Something that people can just "get over" by being positive Weakness or weak mindedness Selfishness or self pity Insanity or craziness Something to be ashamed of These are the kinds of myths and narrow minded prejudices that cause people to feel ashamed of their situation and not seek help when they so desperately need it. Just because a person is depressed doesn't mean that they are any less of a person than you are. It does not mean that you are stronger or smarter than them. Only an idiot would believe that someone could live their life with depression and still be weak. It has made me a stronger person than I have ever been in my entire life. The "snap out of it" mentality seems to be shared by a great many people and with the greatest of respect is possibly one of the most stupid things to say to a person suffering with depression. If they could snap out of it they damn well would! I don't care what anybody says nobody chooses to be depressed. It can not be snapped out of, it is something that takes time to deal with and manage. Depression is also not insanity, insanity is defined as doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results. So maybe by that definition, depressed or not, we are all insane? What depression can do. So many people still believe that depression is just something that makes you feel "a bit sad" or "down" and that it can be cured by being positive or by sheer force of will. But don't you think that if people could get rid of it and be positive then they would be? Depression can: *Leave you feeling helpless *Alone *Frightened *In despair *Make you truly believe that no one understands or cares about you *Make you think that nothing is important and that life is not worth living *Take away the passion and bravery you once had *Turn you into an entirely different person than you once were *Make you lose sight of everything good in your life *Make you feel as though your life has no purpose *Make you feel like an outcast *Make you feel weak *Make you feel as though everyone thinks that you are crazy *Take away all of your happiness and positivity *Leave you feeling that people would be better off without you in their lives *Make you genuinely want to be dead *Ruin your entire life *Make you try to kill yourself These are just a few of the things that depression can do to a person, depression is not about feeling a bit fed up or that you're having a crappy few weeks. Depression is a serious condition and the sooner people realize that and start treating it like one, the more people can be spared the soul destroying loneliness and misery that depression can bring. People take their own lives every single day because they don't seek the help that they need. Whether this is because they think that people will judge them or because they don't know who to turn to, this is something that needs to be addressed. It doesn't matter what the reasons are, it needs to stop. The stigma needs to be removed from depression, and people need to understand that just because you can't see it doesn't mean it's not painfully real.
  • Claire Raymond
    Published 3 years ago
    Telling Someone About Your Depression

    Telling Someone About Your Depression

    Telling someone that you are suffering with depression isn't easy, the judgmental stigma that is attached to mental health, coupled with people's misunderstandings can make talking about it seem like the most terrifying thing in the world. I understand that depression can bring with it a lack of trust, you feel as though no one will understand you and everyone is going to judge you. But they're not, if there is someone in your family that you trust then speak to them, but if there is no one in your family you feel you can talk to, there are plenty of other people that can help you. Your doctor or nurse practitioner are there to help, that is their job. They will not judge you or think that you are crazy, you won't be sectioned or laughed at. They will not tell anyone else, they are not allowed to unless you are an immediate danger to yourself or others. They are there to help, they see depression every single day of their working lives, it is nothing new to them. But they should take your concerns seriously and try to work with you to manage your depression . If they don't, then ask to speak to a different doctor, you deserve to be taken seriously and it is their job to do that. If you feel talking to your family doctor will be too hard, you can ask to see someone else, the surgery is obliged to abide by your wishes. They can not force you to talk to someone you don't want to. Alternatively, you could talk with your nurse practitioner, the nurse practitioner at my local surgery was a total life saver, literally, I really don't think I would be here right now if it had not been for her. Whoever you talk to, be totally honest with them, they might ask you some awkward questions, but they are trying to assess you and figure out the best way to help you and they can't do this if you lie to them. There are also numerous websites and chat-rooms bursting with people that are going through the same thing you are. Don't underestimate the importance of other people's experiences, they have been through all of the feelings you are going through right now and they have lived to tell the tale, let them help. Mind and Rethink are wonderful websites full of advice on various mental health conditions, they are brilliant charities and their websites are full of expert ideas and advice. Helplines are a brilliant source of advice, you can talk to someone any time and one of the best things about them is you can't see them and they can't see you. This is not for everyone but some people find it easier to talk to someone that can't see them. They are very well trained and sometimes hearing a human voice tell you that you will be okay can offer a huge comfort. They are there to listen to you in total confidence, they will never judge or tell you what to do. They may advise you of the best course of action, but it is totally up to you. I would recommend you listen to them as no matter what you might think, they really do want to help you, that is why they are on the phones, because they want to save people's lives. When telling anyone about your depression, the most important thing is that you are totally honest, whether you are not sure what is going through your mind right now, or that you have had thoughts about taking your own life, be honest. The only way anyone can help is if they know what is going on.
  • Claire Raymond
    Published 3 years ago
    How To Cope When You Hate Your Boss
  • Claire Raymond
    Published 3 years ago
    Living With Depression: You Are Not Alone
  • Claire Raymond
    Published 3 years ago
    Why Do Some People Marry Murderers?