Sometimes it seems like you can’t escape this phoney image of the “perfect family.” All smiles, laughter and togetherness like something straight from a greetings card. And being constantly bombarded by images and messages like these can leave you feeling confused and frustrated. Mainly because your family isn’t like that, but it’s okay because nobody’s family is.But knowing that you’re not alone doesn’t make it any easier. You still wonder why your family doesn’t really seem “normal” like everyone else’s. You wonder why people see family gatherings as something to look forward to, rather than something to fear or dread. You wonder what it’s like to turn to your family for advice and not be afraid to be ridiculed or judged.
You know how everyone hates millennials and says we’re all idiots right? Well, they seem to think that there’s not a single soul among us who knows how to run a house. Like our parents raised a bunch of useless morons. Not only is it rude, but it’s also not true. Plenty of millennials know how to set a household budget and plenty of people older than them still don’t know. So whichever category you might fall into, here’s how to set a household budget so you’re not constantly broke.
The holidays can be a tough time, there’s a lot of pressure and expectation to have the perfect family gatherings. You’re surrounded by images of happy families and smiling people. So why don’t you feel like that? Because there’s someone missing. Being bereaved around the holidays can make them even more difficult than they already are. The smiling faces on the TV make you sad and the festive music brings tears to your eyes.
You’ve done it, and now it’s too late to back out. You’ve invited everyone around to your house for Christmas. And unless your family comes straight out of a cheesy greetings card, you’re going to be judged for everything you do. And everything you don’t do. Your food will be under scrutiny, your home will be inspected and your gifts will be reviewed like a professional critic. And even if all of these things pass the test, there’s one thing still under the microscope, your hosting skills. No, it’s apparently not enough that you’re housing, feeding and buying gifts for everyone. You have to host better than Bree Van De Kamp (look her up)
People seem to have this idea about parents, that they’re protective angels who would do anything for their children. And whilst those parents do exist, sadly, they don’t seem to make up the majority. More and more people are realising that not only are their parents not the selfless protectors they should be. They are in fact selfish, hurtful narcissists out for all they can steal. But what can you do if one (or even both) of your parents are toxic? How are you supposed to have a normal relationship with people who care more about themselves than they ever will about you?