For those of you who don’t know, our van “adventure” started in March, and for those of you who are interested, it came to a screeching halt in August. Now I know that 6 months isn’t a long time, but there were times when it fucking felt like it.
So we’re merrily rolling along in somewhere called “Whaley Bridge” about a fortnight ago when BAM! The exhaust fell off. As you can imagine, that isn’t going to be free to fix. The RAC patrol worker was great and did a temporary fix. But it needs to be done permanently. And guess what, we have no idea how much it is going to cost! And guess what else, we’re not exactly rolling in it right now. I’m used to living on a fairly tight budget. I’m one of five children and my mum raised us on one wage. So budgeting is something I’m fairly familiar with. But budgeting in a van is a whole different ball game. Yes, you have fewer outgoings. But you also have fewer incomings unless you’re working full time. So I thought I’d make a budget in case anyone was in the same or similar situation to us.
More people than ever are having money worries. People have been let go, made redundant or furloughed. They’re struggling to pay their rent and are worried about how they will survive. This will naturally cause massive amounts of stress.
Having a family member who is addicted to anything can be incredibly difficult. You have to sit back and watch someone you love make decisions that you don’t think are the best for them. And the whole time you feel completely helpless.
I want to start by saying that any kind of sexual abuse is NEVER the survivor’s fault. There is no excuse for it and there are no “factors” that play a part. Childhood sexual abuse is a crime, plain and simple. Only, for the survivor’s, it’s not plain or simple.
People that make light of panic attacks have clearly never had one. They say things like “it’s all in your mind.” But they can be severe enough to fool paramedics into thinking someone is having a heart attack. If that doesn’t illustrate how serious they are then I don’t know what will.Yes, panic comes from the brain. But it activates an entire system that has serious physical and psychological effects. Yes, it is in the brain, but your brain is triggering an ancient fear response. It’s signalling that you are in serious danger, when in fact you’re not. So if anyone tells you it’s all in your mind, tell them to get fucked.