Chimdi Chime
Bio
I am a mind wanderer who wants to turn my mind travels into a reality. I am a strong woman with lot's to learn. I love to express myself in so many different ways, from my experiences and what I have learned, so I hope you love my stories.
Stories (23/0)
It's Never Too Late to Say Thank You or Sorry
Have you ever been in a situation where a friend or a colleague you are close to does something for you, and you don’t thank them, because you’re used to them? Or in a situation where you did or said something not so nice to your friend, and you don’t apologize for it immediately after because, again, you are used to them? Well I think most of us have.
By Chimdi Chime5 years ago in Humans
Patience in a Relationship
To make a relationship work, you have to be willing to do things that you would not normally do, and if you are in love with your partner, those things may be effortless for you to do. But realistically, sometimes you may not be very keen to do them; that’s a relationship, everything isn’t always rosy. Sometimes when we start a relationship or are about to, we already have the “perfect” relationship in mind, we know how we want our partner to be, we know what we want them to do, and what we will do for them. In other words, we’ve already created a relationship in our minds before we even begin it in real life. When we do begin a relationship and things aren't the way we thought, we get disappointed, and this very well happened to me. It’s the expectations we set for other people that creates room for disappointment. If you don’t expect it, you can't be disappointed by the lack of it.
By Chimdi Chime5 years ago in Humans
Being in Love Is Not the Same as Loving Someone
This thing called love, can be a wonderful thing, and a painful thing at the same time. Love comes in many forms, according to the ancient Greeks there are eight types of love, as explained by Dr. Carol Morgan. We have the Agape Love, this is unconditional, selfless love, like the love of Jesus Christ as believed by Christians. The Eros Love, the romantic, sexual, passionate and physical love, believed to burn out quickly. The Philia Love, this is an affectionate love, the love you feel for your friends. The Philautia Love, the plain and simple self-love, not narcissistic love, but just love of oneself. The Storge Love, this is parent-child kind of love, a strong bond between people. The Pragma Love, this is the type of love that is rare to find, the type of love that some people crave in a society that lacks it today. This love is the love that has endured over time, the type of love that a married couple in their 90s, still holding hands, has. The type of love I want. Then we have the Ludus Love, the love people feel in the honeymoon phase of a relationship, the butterflies in your stomach; the one that makes it seem like you're high on drugs. And lastly, we have the Mania Love, much like its name, this love is an obsessive love that makes you do unacceptable, crazy things; if not controlled it can be very destructive.
By Chimdi Chime5 years ago in Humans
The Craze
All male or all female boarding schools shape your mind in a certain way. The way you act may be different from your counterparts in mixed schools, all through the years of your boarding school life, and a little bit after. Going to an all-girls school made me experience quite a lot, honestly, I wouldn’t change a thing if I had to turn back the hands of time, because I met my best friend in high school. Yeah, this occurred in high school. As an onlooker the things I saw were just mad. Depriving girls of seeing boys does some weird s*** to the brain. When they do see boys it’s a RAMPAGE, oh... my... goodness, it was so funny watching things unfold, during visiting days.
By Chimdi Chime5 years ago in Humans
The Idea of a Relationship/Love
When you get into a new relationship, it's all butterflies in your stomach, blue skies, sweet melodies, rainbows, and unicorns. Everyone in a relationship goes through this phase, we call it the “honeymoon phase.” After this, everything becomes somewhat normal, and the real ones thug it out, and love still blossoms, some give-up, and move onto the next one. But when you are in a relationship, it's important to know, or figure out, "where your heart is,” no matter the phase you're in, it will help you know where you’re going in the relationship, and if you should put any effort in.
By Chimdi Chime5 years ago in Humans
Self Love Is Not Selfish
People throw the word Selfish around as an insult, and that’s because the word selfish itself means lack of consideration for others, and chiefly thinking about your own interests. The “lack of” is what hits me, so it isn’t really a good thing. But, these days, it’s used so often, like people forget what it means. At the slightest thought about yourself, even when you’re the type to always put others first, someone somewhere will call you selfish. For the longest time, I saw “thinking about me first sometimes” as selfishness. I would quickly brush away the thought of doing something I wanted first, before doing something someone else wanted, because I didn’t want to be seen as selfish. I grew up with the mindset that I had to put others first, that is not a bad thing, but you should think about yourself only sometimes. I was a kid anyways, what could I really be selfish about; I wanted kids' stuff, some new slippers I saw my friend wear, snacks, and the like. So as a kid I will just say, I was obeying my parents, when they said I couldn’t have something, I'd listen.
By Chimdi Chime5 years ago in Humans
The Chase or The Kill
Men can be very different kinds of animals when it comes to love. The chase is a thrill. Other animals love their kill, probably the chase as well, but for sure the kill. You don't see the lion chasing a fox, then go home to his pack, and be like, yeah, I needed some legwork today. No! I was in a relationship for a short time, where my partner, I believe, was only there for the chase. If you don’t understand what the chase is, it’s when a person pursues someone romantically, with the intention of being that person’s boyfriend or girlfriend. That’s my definition of it anyways. I know some men out there that just like the chase, and when the person they were chasing finally agrees to going out with them, they become ghosts. Yep! Puff! Gone with the wind. They become unavailable, like they weren’t the ones sweet talking you, and buying you all these nice things just a week ago. Because that’s how fast they can get over you. My question is, but why? And you might ask yourself, did I suddenly become unattractive, did I do something wrong, did I, did I, did I. You need to understand that in that situation, it really has nothing to do with you, except for the fact that you said yes to them.
By Chimdi Chime5 years ago in Humans
Send Nudes!
In this current generation the phrase “send nudes”, has become a slogan. It doesn’t matter who you are, how old you are, male or female, "send nudes," can be said by anyone, but I think many would agree that men are more likely to, and are the ones who say this more. And speaking as a woman, a lot of us women have had their fair share of RANDOM! Guys ask them to send nudes. A dude does not even know you, never met you, has said barely two words to you, and the next thing he thought in his wonderful mind to say was, "send nudes," why! Why! Why! I honestly ask why, because I can’t even begin to think of the thought process in these guys' minds. I think for many it might just be pure lustful thought’s, because a guy thinks a girl is hot and wants to get his hard on. But I still don’t understand why, because there is porn, free porn, why not use that. I believe for those random send nudes, the sender typically has no respect for the receiver, why would you think someone you don’t know would do that, I know there are girls and males out there that can offer that type of service on social media, but I am speaking from the other side, people who are not into that business or into that type of stuff. Or maybe, after looking through a girls’ profile and she has revealing pictures, such as bikini pictures and perhaps portrays herself as an “Instagram model” the word we use these days, you think, just maybe she is into that. NO, it’s not okay, whether or not she is, it's just outright disrespectful to ask that if you don’t know the person, male or female.
By Chimdi Chime5 years ago in Humans
Is It the Distance or Is It Not Love?
This is a well-talked about topic, so it's probably familiar to you. Long distance relationships; can I do it, can I not. I believe a lot of people would say they can’t, and wouldn’t be in a long-distance relationship. I also believe those same people would find it hard to decide when the time comes, because as we all know it’s easier said than done. But I strongly believe nobody wants to be in a long-distance relationship when you're in love with someone. It's almost like not having a part of you with you, but we all know that thing called LIFE! She just does what she wants to do, I think life’s a she, because, you know, mother Nature, my mother land, there are so many things we attribute the pronoun "she" to, so yeah, I think life’s a “she,” but I digress. We don’t plan for the distance, things come up, like work, family, school, and so much more. These things cause us to re-evaluate our life and relationships, so I think there are 3 possible outcomes when you’re thinking about your significant other. One, you leave with them, two, you leave without them, three, you stay with them, and not leave at all. Ha! But we all know it can be more complicated than that, sometimes we don’t even have options, life deals you the card, and tells you where to play it, whether you like it or not.
By Chimdi Chime5 years ago in Humans
It Can't Be Forced
If the screw isn't going into the hole don’t jam it in, don’t think, “just a little bit more,” NO! “Maybe I should try a different tool (for the SIXTH time),” NO! just NO, Sure when you have tried the first two times, that’s usually enough, especially when you know the screw probably shouldn’t have been there in the first place. Yeah, I love talking about screws, it’s my thing some may say.
By Chimdi Chime5 years ago in Humans
