When our daughter wanted to bring her boyfriend to Christmas dinner at my father’s, we all wondered how that would play out. Dad was born in 1934 and raised with strong beliefs. For instance, when I married, he expected my new family to remain members of the Lutheran church and grandchildren to be baptized; these were non-negotiable to keep him happy. Since my beliefs aligned with his, not a problem.
My youth, like everyone’s, had difficulties. Life is not perfect. However, my parents lived according to five values that shaped who I am today. Daily five values were modeled in every aspect, every environment I encountered. They are the same five values I attempt to model: security, work ethic, discipline, respect, and education.
The dirt bikes, four-wheelers, snowmobiles, and my precious Harley all remained parked. A logging chain still secured the zip-line on the back property of our cabin. No nefarious activities triggered this outcome. I simply walked and tripped.
All parents should take a class in Love and Logic. It provides basic, easily implemented skills to stop a child dead in their tracks, especially teens. My husband and I are both educators; we enrolled and attended a week-long training and walked away with the necessary skills we needed to torment any teen. As we practiced them with our daughter at home, we knew they were working when she raised her voice to rant, "I hate it when you take those classes!" and proceeded to stomp out of the room.
“You get what you get so don’t throw a fit.”