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How to Talk to someone when you are angry
1. Don’t React To Anger With Anger Know that you’re only getting angry because someone seems to be angry with you. Try to take a step back and figure out why the person feels the way they do. It could be either due to a misunderstanding, an assumption due to misinformation, or they could just be having a bad day. 2. Stick to the Subject of concern Make your point without attacks or accusations . It can be very easy to get angry and just open the floodgates in terms of every little thing that has annoyed you recently, but it’s not helpful to bring it all up in the context of a single conversation. 3. Take a Timeout If you are in an argument, STOP. Tell the other person this is not going anywhere and that you’d like to take some time and continue in another xx minutes. This takes a ton of self-restraint, but it will likely achieve a much healthier end point overall. 4. Listen and Prepare Try to hear the other person’s point of view. Sometimes we go into a conversation so mad that we forget the other person has an entire inner world of their own, and they may have perceived what happened very differently. By being prepared to listen and absorb, you may come to realise that you can’t even stay angry any more. 5. Write your feelings and thoughts Whether it’s keeping a journal or writing a scathing email that you’ll never send, putting words down on paper is an important step for coping with anger. This also has the secondary effect of allowing you to understand why you were so angry to begin with, which is helpful for understanding triggers going forward. 6. Breathe In and Out Deep breaths increases oxygen flow to angry brain and stimulate the parasympathetic nervous system, the opposite of “fight or flight”, often called “rest and digest”, which leads to a state of calmness. Next time you get angry, try this out. 7. Distraction Distraction is a short term but important technique for managing anger. Ask your partner for a time-out and try playing a distracting game on your phone for about 20 minutes. In fact, researchers are developing computer games for that very purpose. After 20 minutes of distraction, you’ll be able to apply a level-headed approach to the situation at hand definitely as in time-out step.
Men, Anger, Masculinity and Stress
It’s November, a month which celebrates Movember, an annual event involving the growing of moustaches during the month of November to raise awareness of men’s health issues, such as prostate cancer, testicular cancer, and men’s suicide. Men, a gender less discussed and often stays at the hard side of self-image without sharing much leads a life of lonesome hay-wire sides. So, today’s blog is especially dedicated to the fact that the built is never to be alone….. The Merriam-Webster dictionary defines anger as “a strong feeling of displeasure and usually of antagonism.” Psychologist T.W. Smith agrees, saying it is “an unpleasant emotion ranging in intensity from irritation or annoyance to fury or rage.” But being angry is different for everyone at different times. Tiny Things that ignite some people don’t bother others even a tiny bit. Yet we all experience events that makes us angry. Some of them are as follows : Frustration and powerlessness. Hurt and Bullying. Harassment . Injustice. Exhaustion from stress . Threats to the people, near ones, things we care about. Extreme anger is a highly issue causing on multiple events. When someone reaches extreme levels of anger, they are unable to control themselves. This type of anger can also be a sign of a issue such as a mental health disorder, emotional issues, etc. While women are more likely to direct their anger inwards and blaming themselves, men are more likely to lash out extremely because it helps them feel in more control of their emotions, as well as controlling the people around them. The way men experience and express anger may be informed especially from societal expectations to behave. These notions of male masculinity tend to favour strength, dominance and control. These could result in a negative impact on men’s mental health. Also, men may be less likely than women to seek help from mental health professionals. As these behaviours are very much linked to our culture, parents and teachers have an important role to play when boys grow up. Identifying the causes behind behaviours among boys perceived as problematic, may go a long way towards nurturing healthy adult men in the upcoming society. Anger Management for Men Tips Exercise regularly. Men are by default inclined towards more physical exercises and fitness regimes due to levels of testosterone. Exercise helps in release of chemicals such as dopamine and serotonin into the body, which can improve your state of mind and make one less prone to anger. Find some quiet time. Often ignored by majority of men, these are one of the most fruitful techniques to apply. Practice relaxation techniques. Mindfulness can help to relax and cope better with stress. Avoid alcohol. Alcohol lowers your inhibitions, and can make angry outbursts more likely. Express emotion. A total ignorance by all the boys and men which in their thoughts reduces a sense of masculinity. Talking about feelings with a close friend or loved one, and keeping a journal. Theses simple things can often keep you away from a lot of issues. Assert yourself. Assertiveness is not aggression. Learn to get what you want while taking account of others and respect their feelings. Recognise yourself in anger You think that your wife/girlfriend likes talking to her friends rather than spending that time with you. You feel anger when your wife/girlfriend brings work home with her and you envy her success. You are angry that you are always being criticised by your wife/girlfriend, to the point that you can’t ever seem to get it right. Once you begin to recognise some of the deeper fears underlying your anger, you might consider the truly intimate act of talking with your wife/partner about some of your fears. This act of loving vulnerability may be very frightening to consider, but the rewards often far outweigh the risks. After you recognise your fears and reasons of anger, talking intimately with your partner or resolving issues just by easy sense of understanding with anyone around you really helps. This vulnerability is not to be frightened of but to be faced with the masculinity you have. So, next time you feel your anger rising upwards, just take deep breaths, think twice, is it really needed and then see the moment you might have missed….
Life a bit changed after the LockDown
We see everyday as a different story but Covid-19 changed everything to a lot which required new learnings and modifications along with the adaptations. Speaking specifically of this year, it has been a full roller-coaster ride. Lockdown changed almost none to all, lives changes, many got disrupted and many lost. No one was left untouched. However after a very long period in lockdown, many may find that adjusting back to normality again with modifications proves challenging. So how can you get life back on track after facing the lockdown, Here we pose some quick tips. Accept the “New Normal” or stay aback We may find it challenging to adapt, specifically from a mental health viewpoint, but we can make this period of transition easier ourselves. First, any restrictions as there still are and should be there, that remain in place as of now, are there to protect your health, health of your loved ones and the global lives as in this pandemic we are all connected, helping to save lives. Second, consider that this is required to get back to the life before lockdown so that it’s easy to begin with. Become Mindful and Involve it as a daily routine The rise in levels of anxiety and stress can aggravate existing cases of depressive disorders as well as trigger new cases. Mindfulness is as effective as antidepressant medications in preventing a depression relapse. It has numerous health benefits, like lowering blood pressure and especially strengthening the immune system which is must at this time. A silent tone, the aura vibration or a session with a counsellor, anything which works for you, adapt it for real. Meeting Family and Friends – Again You should follow the restrictions put in place in your local community, particularly for the vulnerable and elderly. In many countries there are still restrictions on the number of people allowed to gather in public spaces if you do not consider yours, or meeting points, so you may need to start small. Try and meet up in outdoors, such as walk in the park or a ride, as evidence says that COVID-19 transmission being lower outdoors in comparison to indoors. So enjoy open space before heading to a enclosed one. Share and Talk yourself Out The COVID-19 pandemic has increased tendency to develop a sort of mental disorders which is being studied too. The psychological vulnerability of the millions who have contracted COVID-19 is troublesome and still under checks. Survivors of the illness, particularly severe cases, may experience a specific kind of trauma. Research shows that many experience symptoms of post traumatic stress disorder. So, don’t fear of sharing, it helps and guides you for your own good. Keep up with Good Habits and Betray the Bad Ones Lockdown has been tough for most of us. But still, it was also an opportunity to break the regular cycle and adopt new habits and behaviours, learn a new skill, or take up a hobby which many did. So, don’t get yourself caught up once again leaving them behind. Keep the check on their maintenance as well. But if lockdown saw you eating lots of comfort food and your exercise regime fell off completely as the gym was closed, getting back to it might be hard. The best thing to do is start over. Don’t punish yourself instead redo the assignments and get back to work. We are available for you to support . When things get tout of the hand and you feel alone, we’re here for you. Connect with our Experts to Consult Now
5 Reasons why people who cry are more than awesome
Are you the one who is scared to cry ? Are you a man who is never taught to cry ? Or Are you so powerful that you need not cry ? People may try to suppress tears as they see them as a symbol of weakness especially the gender specifications make them to do so, but science suggests that doing so could mean missing out on a plethora of benefits. Researches have shown a wide variety of reasons why crying is beneficial and what effects does it have on an individual, let us examine some of them today. Helps us to get relief from pain Research has found that along with self-soothing effect on an invidual, shedding emotional tears releases oxytocin and endorphins. These chemicals make us feel good as humans and also ease both physical as well as emotional pain. In this way, crying can help reduce multiple painful areas and promote a sense of well-being. Helps in a sound sleep A study has found that crying can help babies sleep better. Whether crying has the similar sleep-improvement effect on adults is yet to be researched. However, it follows that the calming, mood-improvement, and pain-relieving effects of crying above may help a person fall asleep more easily without hesitation. Emotionally Stronger in terms of strong Gender society Crying is stigmatised for both sexes especially for men. If a female cries it’s because she’s unstable or needs attention from others. If a male cries, he’s girly, or, my people’s favourite, not manly enough. All of these stigmas encourage both sexes to submerge their sadness to the depths of their soul. But also, those who allow themselves to be sad in public are not only proven to be brave, but also activists for an emotionally healthier society emerging as leaders of tomorrow. Improves vision Basal tears, which are released every time a person blinks, help to keep the eyes moist which is necessary day to day requirement and prevent mucous membranes from drying out. As a study explains, the lubricating effect of basal tears helps people to visualise more clearly. When the membranes dry out, vision can become blurry and many of us notice that sometimes. Therapeutic Effect of Tears Psychological researches have shown that crying stimulates our brain’s endorphin release, the “feel-good” hormones that also act as a natural pain killer. Crying also lowers manganese levels, a chemical that, when overexposed to, can exasperate the brain and body. This allows us to think clearer about the problem and not be so overwhelmed by it, think about it when next time you make your decision. A short story about a man who was reluctant to make himself display the soft feature of his personality, so whenever he felt to cry at any moment, he turned away himself or in the laughter but one day when he felt himself overwhelmed while making love to a woman in his entire life, his wife, his eyes began rolling down the unstoppable tears and when her soulmate saw that, she was confused on the scenic masculinity he always displayed on the outer side. The question came up with a smile on her lips to which he explained that in his entire life, he did not feel himself to express himself in front of anyone due to society image and his strong character but when someone felt him to the soul, he had nothing to say but tears which was accepted by her without any further query. So, next time you see a person in tears, instead of making fun or smiling at the face, remember last time what therapy you had them for ?
6 Top Ways to Reduce and cope up with your Stress and Tension
It might be quite surprising for you that often Stress is held responsible for various issues in life including many others but it is not a long back discovery. In initial days of science, it was not even considered a symptom or a cause of worry but in late 50s, it was discovered that stress has serious implications. So here, we get you through some of the ways to reduce stress and anxiety with simple yet effective and quick techniques. Have a Cup of tea A large cup of caffeine causes a short-term spike in blood pressure. It may also cause your hypothalamic-pituitary-adrenal axis to go into overdrive. Instead of coffee or a variety of energy drinks, give a try to green tea. It has less than half the caffeine of coffee and contains healthy antioxidants along with theanine, an amino acid that has a calming effect on the nervous system. Meditate The practice of inward-focused thought and deep breathing has been shown to reduce heart disease risk factors such as high blood pressure. Meditation combined with regular yoga and a simple chant, can relax the mind and body to an instance of relief and blissful state. Laughter Laughter releases endorphins that improves mood and decreases levels of the stress-causing hormones named cortisol and adrenaline. Laughing tricks your nervous system into making you happy. Exercise and Yoga A short walk around the house or simply standing up to stretch during a break at work can offer immediate relief in a stressful situation. Just have a look around yourself and get to the fitness regime which can make you feel relieved, even go with your favourite music played in the background or maybe a friend along with. Getting your blood moving releases endorphins and can improve your mood almost instantaneously. Sleep better Stress can cause you to lose sleep. Unfortunately, lack of sleep is also a key cause of stress. This problematic cycle causes the brain and body to get out of sync and only gets worse as time passes by. Make sure to get seven to eight hours of sleep. Turn the TV off a bit earlier than usual, dim the lights, and give yourself time to relax before going to bed. It is the most effective stress buster out there. Think that something better is yet to Come No one managing his or her own life is devoid of stress, and too much can lead to excessive worry, nervousness, dread, upset stomach or even difficulty with breathing. The first step to overcome negative feelings is to recognise that you are experiencing a very common emotional state most commonly identified as anxiety. Although it’s uncomfortable, these feelings will pass. Fighting the anxiety can just make you stronger and helps to activate the body’s natural relaxation response. Hopefully, these ways in one way or the other help your lives transform at an ease and if they already are at ease, make yourself more calm and composed in terms of situation handling and management. Breathing technique is one of the most effective ones and scientifically proven to have a positive energy effect inside human body and mind which in turn effects the tuning of happiness hormones increasing the productivity of an individual to a capacity one is capable of, in his or her actual life which was hidden somewhere in the past. This simple tuning of mind can make your life more positive, enthusiastic and aura filled to help you and others around you to consume maximum happiness out of life which is nowadays typical for any individual to encounter. Have something worthy to live for, that is, smiles and happiness.
10 Signs That You're Not Yet Ready For A Relationship
There should be an easy pathway to check upon ourselves whether we are actually ready for a relationship or not, don't you think so ? Here, we have compiled ten different points to mark your checklist and figure out if you are ready for the relationship or not.
An Open Letter to Depression - Part 1
Dear Mind, Thank you for reading myself. I am writing this letter to dictate you that I have won, I have won from your misdeeds, the foul plays which your steamy wires and connections used to play with me. It's over now, that anxiety, that unnecessary stress, the unique non-existential thoughts cannot bear over me now, This letter is to tell you that you have lost, lost all against all your tactics.