No one wants to have toxic people in their lives taking their joy away or making them unhappy. But what do you do if the very people making you unhappy and plain miserable are the ones that share your blood? How do you walk away from your family? What do you do if they keep bringing you down?
DO NOT lie to the kids—if you have kids do not lie to them about what is happening to their family, why you and your spouse are choosing to get a divorce, or what is going to happen next. Kids are already going through the pain of divorce and one parent moving out of the house. Do not lie to them, even if you think it will make them feel better. It will assuredly make them feel worse. And may even make them feel that it is their fault, and that is why you are lying to them about it. And also they come to resent you for your actions.
Have you ever had someone say to you that you are being a bitch and you wonder, how am I? Well, you are not being a bitch, people just do not like the change in you. so that is their go-to name. Some people do not like when a woman stands up for herself. Especially when it is to an older woman or a mother-in-law. So she gets labeled as a bitch, because she no longer fits in with what they want. She is not allowed to stand up for herself. A mother-in-law will rather you be weak, an abusive husband will rather you be weak, a hateful boss will want you to be weak. Why? Because these people do not want you to be able to stand up to them, and put them in his or her places.
She turned out the lights, grabbed her soda, and a blanket. She curled up on the love seat like they used to do together. And she thought about her husband as a tear came to her eye. This movie she thought she would not watch. The new movies sometimes just did not look good, and this one she was not sure about. She finally decided to watch it because it reminded her of her husband. Beauty and the Beast quickly became her favorite princess movie when her husband, who at the time was her boyfriend, referenced them as a couple to the beauty and the beast.
Who comes first to you? Is it your wife? Is it your mother? Maybe your kids? Where does your baby mama fit in? Who is the one that you turn to in your time of need? Who do you count on when you're upset? Who is the one who can calm you down when you are angry? Who is the one that is above all your number one before anyone else?
Have you ever heard the song by Dixie Chicks called "Not Ready To Make Nice"? Do you know the story behind the song? I recently heard this song, and it was not what I expected it to be. I thought it was going to be one of those country songs about breakups or cheating. So, I had heard if it but never listened to it. One day I was listening to some songs and it popped up, and I heard some of it before being able to change it, and I thought to myself, "Hmmm... okay I am going to give this a real listen." So I played it back from the beginning, and it really hit home with me.